Now on to what I was going to write this blog about:) If you ever need a good ice breaker question I think the question- "If you could live in any era what would it be?" is a great one because it can tell you a lot about a person as well as strike up a good conversation. For me, I'd like to live in the 1950's in my mind (which I could be completely wrong) but in my mind things were a lot more simple and society wasn't quite as ridiculous as it has gotten now. Here's my thing- we were talking the other night with a group of guys and girls about dating these days and honestly it is such a messed up system because the way society views dating now a-days is so confusing. For instance if a guy asks a girl to get dinner or ice cream or coffee people can misconstrue it as the first date or take it ridiculously far and say oh they will be dating like the next day and then a ring will be going on that finger soon. When in reality the boy just wants to get to know the girl to see if there is potential; but because there is this awkward confusion it seems that now a-days boys are more timid and less likely to ask girls on "dates" or just times to hang out- in my mind this doesn't quite seem fair. For instance my dad asks "Cameron why haven't you gone out on many dates since you've been in college?" Haha I reply "well dad that is a very good question that I can't really answer." Now I don't say that to get the aw woe is me I say that to say that it was different when my dad was in college because to him it was normal for them to "date" or go out with different girls in order to know exactly what fits them best. But I also am not going to lie to you because I am one of those girls that gets excited if a guy asks her to hang out ( haha but lets be honest that rarely happens ) but if it did happen I'll admit that I would wonder what it was about and probably get excited in hopes that a relationship would be on the way (ridiculous i know), but I feel like I'm not the only one. Also, I think it's good to seek the Lord's will and to be conscious especially now that we are getting older but being conscious that the person we are hanging out with could potentially be the one because who really knows. I think what I'm trying to say is I think it's good to seek the Lord's will and to wait to date a person and that it is courteous to not date/hangout with a bunch of different people. But then you wonder gosh how are you going to get to know people of the opposite sex? Well I agree it is hard for guys and it's easy to be timid they will give off the wrong impression and its hard for girls because we go in with an expectation of a possible relationship and come out with a more than likely let down. BUT have no fear I think I have a possible solution. I think it's fitting that I'm a Comm major because I always talk about how communication is key but seriously it really is key. Guys let your intentions be known if you want to hang out just to get to know the girl just tell her that don't let it be an awk confusion and girls be guarded and don't think that every guy is looking for a relationship. Although I think communication is key- I think it's key between the guy and the girl NOT between the best friends the roommates the teammate the random people yes it's exciting that potential is happening but there is NO reason to make a huge deal out of two people hanging out. So I guess if I were to pick an era it'd be the 1950's early 1960's I think everything was a lot less complicated and there weren't as many expectations plus there was some awesome music and some cute clothes.
Anyways just something to ponder:)
With all my love- Cam
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